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I don’t normally catch much news in the morning. Mostly, this is because I just never get around to turning the TV on. Today, I happened to catch it when Michaele went into the living room to watch. Then it reminded me why I like avoiding the news. It was The Early Show on CBS that was on this morning, and rather than starting the day with something nice and uplifting, they started it with this story from Florida.

There is nothing redeeming about that situation. It’s a terrible way to start the day, because it leaves you feeling like crap. I don’t care what, if anything, the victim girl said to or about these people; it didn’t deserve that. It’s sad and disgusting, and it just pisses me off. Especially when they had the mother of one of the attackers on, and she sounded like an ignorant…word I won’t use here. In so many words, she said it was the victim’s fault, like her precious little angel hadn’t done anything wrong. How unfit a parent must you be to do anything that would even remotely resemble supporting your child after something like this? Take responsibility. And never, ever, have another child, because you’re clearly too irresponsible a parent to raise them properly.

Let’s be clear, there are so many things wrong with this, on so many levels, that I’m not even sure I could cover it all in one blog. Luckily, I probably don’t have to, because I suspect that you’re with me when I say that stupid is an increasingly dangerous disease in this country. I take back what I said earlier, there is one redeeming fact: at least the children/criminals dumb enough to do this kind of stuff are also dumb enough to video tape it for YouTube. That should help a little bit, at least on the justice side. But what of the fact that they think exhibition of these acts not only okay, but something to strive for? What does that say about what they are being taught by society? And not just in this case. Follow along on Fark.com some time, and watch how often criminals are caught because of video, and how often they even put said video on places like MySpace and YouTube. It is a scary trend.

“When we had them in custody at the station, they were laughing about it, saying, ‘Well, I guess this spring break we won’t go to the beach,” Judd told The Early Show. “One of the suspects asked the detective, ‘Am I going to get to go to cheerleading practice tomorrow?”

“They showed absolutely no remorse at all,” Judd said.

Everyone in that room had the responsibility to stop what was taking place, without exception. Everyone there should have known better. Everyone there was also failed by both their parents and their community, by not giving them the tools needed to make the right choices.

How wrong do things need to get before people start owning up? Not just the kids. I actually only blame them for the actions that took place at that moment. There is a whole history of stupid that occurred prior to this that created them and their attitudes. Where are the parents? Where is the responsibility, the respect, that you are supposed to be instilling in your child? Did they just give up? Do they not care? I can’t express how deeply sad this makes me for them. The kids in this case must be punished, it is only right, but I still feel very bad that they weren’t given the environment and caring that they needed to be healthy people. Now their lives are started down a path that could turn into a quick downward spiral. I think I’m starting to learn this Buddhist thing more and more though. I am angry, yes, but I am sad and compassionate first. I feel bad that they don’t understand just how wrong it was, and why they shouldn’t attack people, like that or otherwise. I am sad that they are going to miss out on so many of the good things in life, because their support networks failed them. Ultimately, we have the power to make right choices in any circumstance, hopefully they can learn that.

Here’s another “thought piece” for my ever steady readers (I love you all!).  The inspiration came from watching this video at Break.com.  I’ll warn you, it’s not raunchy or anything, just very sad and disturbing.

Okay, did you watch it?  Well, if not, I think you’ll get the point regardless.  Let me start by saying that I am in no way trying to make excuses, or condone that behavior.  It’s a terrible, awful thing, and I have no doubt he will learn just how how it feels to play a 14 year old boy in the same position once he’s comfortably inside PMITA prision.  And that will come very likely well deserved.  My point though is this:  that as bad as that is, it only exemplifies a problem Americans, and increasingly everyone, have with responsibility and villification.

When I judged forensics the week before last, I heard a really great oration on personal responsibility.  I really felt like the kid had a good handle on some of the ideas that everyone else seems to have forgotten.  If you will pardon me, I’m going to briefly backtrack and play the other side of the ball for a moment though (don’t you love stream of consciousness writing?).  See, the first problem I have with that video lies not with him, though that is a major problem, but with us.  We have become a society so groomed into being victimized, that we are slowly taking what I think is the next step:  vilification.  Now not only are we the victim, but Cause X is the bad guy for allowing us to be the victim.  What the media was doing in that clip was actively helping create and showcase a villain for us.  It’s the video game publisher’s fault for creating a game marked mature that we bought for our child.  It’s a fast food chain’s fault that we got fat from lack of self control.  It’s the cigarette industry’s fault that we want to destroy our bodies with poison.  Get the idea?  It used to be just not our fault; now not only is that true, but it has to be someone else’s fault.  We have to have someone to blame.  We need that focal point to direct anger at, and naturally media is happy to do that.

So all this raises the question for the initial deal: is it entrapment?   Let’s take the example down just a notch, to something a little more palatable: prostitution.  Cops is a great example of this.  They set an undercover cop out, to entice and pressure someone into trading money for sex, then they arrest them.  The argument?  They could ignore the woman if they wanted to.  But really, what are they guilty of here?  It’s not like they are arresting them with their penis inside her.  So what are you going to charge them with?  Peer pressure?  Wouldn’t it be better to find a way to go after the source of that problem, rather than creating criminals out of people that might have otherwise driven right on by?  It’s a very gray line matter, the same as the first instance.  Granted, yes the guy is a pervert and really did cross the line in a number of ways, but I’d also lay money ten to one that the cops totally groomed and manipulated him online to get him to show up.  I’m no sociologist or psychologist or anything, but I’d love to disect the transcripts of the chats just to see what went down, because obviously if someone is out trolling for sexual predators, you’re going to open doors that normal people wouldn’t.  I’d go so far as to say that per capita, that kind of offense is no more common now than it ever has been.  But our mentality to place blame and accuse people forces us to showcase all this bad.  The internet isn’t creating a culture of sexual exploitation and crime, it just gives us a new vehicle to show it off.

And it’s made worse when you consider what most “rational” people would do to someone like that.  I think it’s fair to say that I would have no problem finding people who would agree with me making an analogy comparing us in many ways to the Roman Empire.  While we can’t make a bad guy and feed him to the lions, we can sure feed him to the media and a cell mate named Bubba.  We can discuss how much we’d like to see him castrated and beaten (as long as we don’t have to do it, that way we we aren’t the villian).  So in the long run violence begets violence.  So who’s fault is it?  Is it the person’s for being weak willed enough to be taken in by the “bait” (making them responsible) or ours for needing to create the villian (thereby absolving them of responsibility)?  It’s a very dangerous moral brightline to create regardless, I think.

You know, several years ago I made some choices that came into conflict with our society, legally.  I regret it, and admit fault, and I always have.  But that’s just the thing.  I did get into trouble for it, and when that happened, I was man enough to take it on the chin, pay for it as expected, and use it to see that it was a road that would lead to me becoming a person I didn’t want to be.  It was no one’s fault but my own.  But it always seems like people refuse to take that sort of stand.  We make mistakes!  It’s alright!  Sure, some worse than others, but for the love of Pete, people are terrified of saying the words “I screwed up.”  We’ve gone so far in vilifying, that people are terrified that if they admit fault, they too will be demonized.  Granted, sometimes there’s a justified reason for that, as seen in the video.  Damn right he’ll be demonized, but you know what, dude, you’re caught and you were doing something totally wrong.  Had it stayed all talk, it could have probably been forgotten, but once he entered that house, a good case is made for the real villain there.  What good do you really think playing dumb is going to do.  At least if you own up, maybe you’ll get a loving gay roommate in prison, instead of angry bodybuilder that just thinks you have a pretty mouth without teeth.

I know I didn’t actually go anywhere with all this and that I tended to back up and justify both sides of the argument.  The thing is that there are flaws all over with the logic at any one particular angle.  I guess the real moral here is that responsibility lies first with us.  We make the mistakes, and we should own up.  At some point yes, we can point the finger at others, but that should hardly be the first course of action.  And we should stop creating opportunities to breed criminals.  While I know none of the back story to the original video, for all we know, he might never have committed a crime in his life had that opportunity not been given to him.  He will get what he deserves for going too far, but the example underlying is that in lesser situations, a lot of people might get something they don’t deserve because of our constant need for villains, to see bad guys taken away.  We need to chill out, take responsibility, stop trying to make everyone else a bad guy, and focus on real criminals and real problems.